Saturday, August 7, 2010

How to Talk so Your Kids Will Listen, H. Norman Wright

How to Talk So Your Kids will Listen, H. Norman Wright
Wright does again what he is so good at doing. He guides the reader through scripture to look closely at themselve and examine the areas they can change. This is not a step-by-step magic formula to mold the perfect child. Nor is it a step-by-step guide to “making” your child mind or transforming them into what you think they ought to be. Rather it encourages the reader to truly evaluate the fact that God has created us each as unique and beautiful creations – designed for a specific purpose and plan. It causes you to look at the way you communicate with your children. Are you truly convinced that they are individuals and thus they are very much different and have different personalities and learning styles. We often spend time and energy learning to communicate with other adults. We strive to listen and not interrupt, to interpret the meaning behind what they are saying (often over-looking the way in which it is said). However, when it comes to our children we demand that they be molded into our world – responding to situations and circumstances the way we think they should. This means we often do not convey to them a healthy communication style at all. I found this book extremely helpful and believe that it can apply across the board to improve communication skills in the entire family and in extended relationships. What a great skill and gift to pass on to our children – a heart knowledge and desire to see others as a unique creation of God and thus to strive to communicate with others in the wisdom of this on their communication style. I had not realized until reading this book just how much I had taken for granted nd misused my position as a parent by not showing a proper respect in this area to my children – in turn they too did not show that respect to their siblings. Thank you again H. Norman Wright for you insight and wisdom. Thank you for laying out a scriptural guide-line that causes a reader to dig deeper into the word of God to discover what the Spirit has for them – making the changes permanent and not just surface level – genuine heart change. As always H. Norman Wright has written another excellent resource for the family and individual. I must have for those who counsel parents, and couples.
Thank you Regal for this review copy.

1 comment:

  1. This sounds great. I may have to borrow this one.